The Wedding Day Music Checklist

One of the biggest ways to shape the energy of your wedding day is through music! There are several key moments throughout the day that need the right songs. I always tell my couples it’s less about having the perfect list and more about making sure your music feels like you and sets the tone you’re going for.

Here’s a breakdown of every music moment you’ll want to consider, plus some honest insight from my experience. Some couples want full control of every track. Others hand over a vibe and let me run with it. There’s no wrong way to do it. This guide just helps make sure nothing gets overlooked. After all, this is the soundtrack to one of the biggest days of your life!

Prelude Music (30 to 45 minutes)

This is what’s playing as guests arrive and find their seats before the ceremony. You’ll want about 10 to 15 songs here. This is typically soft, pretty music. Acoustic covers, instrumental versions of popular songs, piano or string arrangements, or anything that keeps the mood calm and romantic.

Guests will be settling in and chatting, so it’s less about standout tracks and more about keeping the energy warm and inviting.

Ceremony Music (Typically 3-5 Songs)

There are a few songs you’ll want to line up for your ceremony:

• A song for the wedding party to walk in to

• A separate song for the bride’s entrance

• A song during the ceremony, if you’re doing a unity moment like candle lighting, sand ceremony, or communion

• A fun upbeat recessional song for your exit down the aisle once you’re officially married

I usually recommend just one or two entrance songs max to keep things flowing. Trying to time a separate song for each bridesmaid or groomsman can get messy and creates awkward transitions. The recessional is your big “we did it” moment so make it feel joyful.

Cocktail Hour (1 hour, 15 songs)

This is where the energy can pick up a bit. It’s still background music but with more personality. I recommend including songs that show off your style but aren’t necessarily your must-hear tracks since you’ll likely be off taking photos and mingling during this time.

Think feel-good music. Motown, acoustic R&B, classic hits, or artists that both generations will recognize without needing to dance yet.

Reception

Entrance Songs - Now the party begins!

• One song for the wedding party entrance (you can do all together or two groups)

• A separate song for the couple’s grand entrance

I personally don’t recommend calling out every name in the wedding party unless you’re doing something super specific or choreographed. Most people don’t love the spotlight and it can drag. A big group entrance gives your photographer a better shot and keeps the energy up. You can always walk out to the same song as your wedding party or nix the wedding party entrance and only have the couple do their big entrance.

First Dance

Choose a song that means something to you both. Could be slow and sweet or something a little more upbeat. Make sure your photographer knows what you’ve picked so they’re ready. Give your DJ a cue if you’re cutting it short.

Dinner Music (1 hour, 15 songs)

Dinner music should feel mellow but not sleepy. Guests will be eating and talking, so this isn’t the time for deep dance tracks or loud choruses. I usually suggest a mix of jazz, oldies, acoustic pop, or anything that sets a nice background tone.

Cake Cutting Songs (2)

Keep it fun, light, and short. One song usually works but have a second ready just in case it runs long.

Special Dances

You’ll want to plan for:

• Father and daughter

• Mother and son

• Any other family dances

Pick songs that fit your relationship, whether emotional or playful. Again, you’ll want to communicate with your DJ if you’re cutting anything short.

Dance Floor Kickoff

Some couples like to gather everyone for a big group photo to kick off the dance floor. If that’s your plan, choose one or two songs to play while we coordinate.

Another option is the Anniversary Dance. It starts with all married couples on the floor, and the DJ gradually narrows it down to the couple who’s been married the longest. It’s a sweet tradition that gets everyone involved and sets the tone beautifully. For this one, pick two songs that are classic and timeless.

Dance Floor Playlist (25 songs minimum)

This is where you can have fun, but be strategic. Your personal favorites are great, but also think about what will actually get your guests dancing. A mix of throwbacks, wedding classics, line dances, and current hits usually works best.

I always encourage couples to give me a “must play” list and a “do not play” list. But also, let your DJ read the room and bring in a few surprises. That’s part of what makes the night feel alive.

Bouquet and Garter Toss (optional)

Each needs its own track. You can go cheeky, funny, flirty, or sweet. Whatever fits your vibe.

Last Songs of the Night

Think about how you want the night to end. One last big song for your guests to dance to, then your own private last dance to close out the evening. That private dance can be emotional, romantic, or just a quiet moment to soak it all in.

Your DJ is more than just someone pushing play. They’re reading the energy, working the timeline, and helping shape the memories! The more we collaborate in advance, the smoother and more unforgettable the day becomes.

Got questions or need help picking songs? Reach out. I love helping couples bring their wedding soundtrack to life!