Wedding Vendor Etiquette 101: Who Deserves a Tip, a Meal, or Both?

If you’ve ever joined a wedding planning Facebook group, you already know that tipping vendors is one of the most debated topics out there. The question “Who do we tip and how much?” pops up constantly, and the comment section always gets heated. Some couples insist on tipping every vendor, while others argue that they’ve already spent enough. The truth is, there isn’t a one-size-fits-all answer. After DJing more than 100 weddings, I’ve seen every possible approach.

Let’s start with the obvious. Weddings are expensive. By the time you’ve paid deposits, balances, and covered all those last-minute details, it can feel overwhelming to think about adding hundreds more in gratuities. I completely understand that, and as a vendor, I never expect a tip. For me, tips are simply an appreciated gesture of gratitude for going above and beyond, not an obligation.

That said, many vendors do go far beyond what’s written in their contracts. I know I do! Whether I’m helping a couple reorganize their timeline, coordinating with other vendors, or stepping in as an unofficial day-of coordinator, I take pride in making sure the day runs smoothly. Integrity is part of how I work, and that extra effort is something couples often notice and appreciate.

In my experience, about half of the weddings I DJ include a tip, usually ranging from $50 to $200. The higher end often comes when I’ve filled multiple roles, like both DJ and coordinator. But again, tips are never expected, they’re a personal choice.

So, who typically gets tipped? Here’s a general guideline based on what I’ve seen over the years:

• DJ or Band: $50 to $200, depending on service and length of the event.

• Photographer and Videographer: Around $50 to $150 each, especially if they’re with you all day.

• Planner or Coordinator: $100 to $250 for full-service planning, or $50 to $150 for day-of coordination.

• Venue Manager or On-Site Staff: Optional, but if they’ve been hands-on and helpful, a tip or thank-you card goes a long way.

If you can’t or don’t want to tip, that’s perfectly okay. The best way to show your appreciation is to leave a thoughtful review. Reviews are free, powerful, and incredibly helpful to small business owners. I personally love when couples leave reviews on Google, since that’s where most new clients find me.

Another common question that comes up: Who gets fed dinner? Generally, you’ll want to feed anyone who’s working more than seven or eight hours. Usually your DJ, photographer, and videographer. If you have a planner or coordinator, include them too. It’s a small act of kindness that keeps your team energized and focused throughout the night. With that being said, it's also nice to know if you're NOT feeding us so that we can plan accordingly.

At the end of the day, tipping and feeding vendors isn’t about obligation, it’s about appreciation. Your wedding vendors work hard to bring your vision to life, and any gesture that acknowledges that effort, whether it’s a tip, a meal, or a glowing review, makes a lasting impression.